Today we will discuss about TV dramas, about the so-called “bad” roles in many dramas, the most annoying character in the drama, the one who either having a tragic ending or was changed for the better by the male or female lead in the drama.
As a viewer of dramas, have you realised that the “bad” guy/girl roles in the dramas were actually hurting themselves while doing harm to others? Did you also realise that these annoying characters always would think that they are the victims, and that it is others who are doing them injustice?
These “bad” roles always feel that they are the victims, they have victimhood mentality, and that they did not do anything wrong. Sometimes they would feel that what they did is because of what others did. They are just protecting themselves, and even avenging for themselves.
The audience watching the dramas would certainly know that the real annoying “bad” guys are those who thought they are the victims, because the audience are watching the drama from God’s view and get to see the big picture of the truth of things. And in fact, these “bad” characters are also very common in real life. Think about it, are there such people around you or is that you, yourself? Or would you think that “Hey, it’s them not me”?
These dramas are just reminding you that those who bring harm to others are those who think of themselves as victims. These “bad” people can only see that whatever others are doing are wrong, and they are not able to see how their own actions are causing harm to others and they, themselves. Thus, they often did things without consciously knowing what they are actually doing, and let things get worse.
When you are having thoughts like these, thinking that it is the fault of others, “it is them not me”, and feeling wronged or unjust about it, then this emotion is a reminder to you, to calm down and think things through before putting the blame on anyone, including yourself. This is a reminder to place yourself in the shoes of others, to give yourself a chance to see the truth and live a happier life. Neither you nor anyone needs to be blamed.
The purpose of seeing the truth has never been to blame or reprimand anyone, but to enable yourself to change and grow.
《人生如戲就是這個道理》方慶雄
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