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Important questions to ask yourself before you speak

Important questions to ask yourself before you speak

How many have thought that always having to think before they speak to others are tiring. And it is tiring just by having this thought itself. . . Because the end result is to say what is not true to their own thoughts and feelings, but to please another. This is also why many people now mistakenly think that by sharing criticisms and hate openly, they are being true and cool. This is the effect of a backlash from depression. . . This is also the reason why many people are interested in reading the minds of others.

In fact, many times, this annoyance and tiredness comes from trying to guess and control the reaction of others. And others are not within the scope of control. To think of trying to control or fight another person of the same level, will of course lead to annoyance and tiredness. Here, you are trying to fight against the natural Law of the Universe, which is, the Law of Freewill.

Many people are taught by their elders, while others are taught by experiences, that whenever you want to speak with another, you need to think first before you let it out of your mouth, questions to ask yourself before you speak may be like:

“If I say this, will he/she not like me?”,

“If I say this, will he/she be upset?”

“If I say this, will I be a bad person in the mouth of others’ ?”

“How will others see me if I were to say this?”

Have you discovered that the subject of these questions are others and not within, and how these questions are hiding selfish intentions? These questions revolve around others, outside of self and hide the desire to control others. The desire to control how others think and feel about ourselves. To want to control them from being hostile to ourselves.

This direction of thinking is being misguided, and it thus leads to depression and annoyance. Looking for an answer outside of self, will never bring the result you truly want. When the other person’s reaction to us is different from what was guessed, many people will fall into the edge of collapse, depression and irritance.

So what can we do to help with our communication with others? Can we not just say what we want to say? This is, of course, our ultimate goal, but it can be devastating when you don’t even know yourself well.

If you are a bit lost here, you can try to change your habits of thinking, go within, and adjust the questions you are used to, a little.

For example, before you speak, you can always ask yourself first:

“What is my intention of saying this?”

“What kind of results do I want to get by saying this?”

“What is the purpose of me saying this?”

“What needs of mine am I trying to satisfy by saying this?”

“Is this need of mine true to what I desire or is it just to satisfy the vanity of ego?”

These questions will help one discover that many of what was thought to be true feelings and thoughts, are in truth, not. And therefore, these words will not go out through the mouth, which will be equivalent to lesser talk of words that betray oneself, and releasing of energy of betrayal, and thus not attracting people or situations that involve betrayals.

By asking yourself these questions frequently, will also allow you to increase your self-awareness and understand your true self. At the same time, you will have more confidence in the words you have spoken, as they come from deep within, your true self. And you will not feel any guilt for your true feelings. Instead, you will feel peace and joy, because you understand that what you are saying is not meant to attack anyone, nor to bring yourself up above anyone, or push anyone down beneath you.

By doing so, you will also come to realise that the understanding and reaction of others to your words are purely within them, and has nothing to do with you at all.

In addition to all these, what you will find with joy is your inner peace.

Kelly
Kelly

Kelly enjoys writing and creating content to share love and wisdom knowledge she receives and experiences. She enjoys doing what she do best in many of her lifetimes, connecting with beings from the higher realms and sharing the loving guidance and healing energies she receives, to help those who come to her to balance their energies, clear their doubts and empower them with inspirational wisdom.

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