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Do not fear people who talk bad about you

Do not be afraid of people who talk bad about you

Do not fear people who talk bad about you

People talk bad about you because they are intimidated by you, your light. They do not want to be left behind, alone in the dark and thus, hope others stay with them in the dark.

Most of the times, as you realise, the things people talk about you are untrue. Simply because they are just reflecting themselves on you, and making judgements of what they have upon themselves on you. This includes both the good and bad things they talk about. In fact, it is their soul trying to show them the part that they need to bring to light and heal, by reflecting on others.

As they see the light in you, and at the same time their dark aspects being reflected out to them, they are afraid. They are scared that others will judge them like they judged you, so they start to spread untrue things about you, or sometimes they thought are true about you. They do not like it that you are shining your true light, and that is something that they are afraid of. And they do not like it that they are being led to the awareness of their dark aspects, for they refused to believe that that is them. They have to bring you back down with them, so others may see you as them, or even as them being above you, for they are the ones who took the lead to bring you back down.

Let’s talk about an example to help you relate more:

“A group of friends decided to watch a movie together, and they could not decide on the movie title, as there are differing views and preferences. So one of the girls, let’s name her Ada, stood up and said that it is ok to not watch the movie title that she’d like to watch today, and that she can go home so the rest can proceed with what they want to watch. And so She went home.”

So what do you think about this story here? Are you making judgements on Ada or the rest of the group of friends? What would you do or think or feel, if you were the group of friends? OR what would you do or think or feel if you were Ada?

I find this interesting to meditate upon and think about your choices and judgements being made based on this short story, and shall continue in another article at a later date. *UPDATE BELOW*

So you may have knowingly or unknowingly already made judgements on either Ada or the group of friends. Let’s continue with the story.

“After Ada went home. The group of friends were furious and upset. They tried to make Ada to stay and watch the movie with them but, she refused and would prefer to go home. She even offered to watch the movie title that she wanted alone, and would be very happy to meet up again on another day. She would prefer all not to waste time discussing or negotiating and go ahead and watch the movie that everyone desires.

The group of friends think otherwise, and among them, there were also some who prefer to watch what Ada wanted, but they thought to themselves that they would prefer to go with the majority for fear of being talked badly about behind their backs for not having a group thinking. They too, were unhappy with Ada, wondering why if they could “sacrifice” and follow the group and she could not. They were unhappy with the independence thinking of Ada, and the guts of Ada to choose to go home instead of spending the money on something she does not like. They are envious of Ada for being able to stay convicted to her own choice, for not being afraid of the judgements from others.

Ada on the other hand did not have any negative thoughts nor emotions from this episode. She respected herself, and her friends for their choices. She feels that instead of her going along and not be happy which may affect the energy of the group negatively too, and vice versa, she choose to leave in peace and would be happy to rejoin them at a later date for another movie or even gathering.”

I will stop the story here. Have you now changed your thoughts on this story? Take some time again to think and reflect on your life and those around you. Are there similar incidents that happened before?

The group of friends were unhappy with Ada, some thinking that Ada is not being happy by walking away. This is because they, themselves are not happy with what happened and they think Ada would be too. They even thought that Ada is being selfish, but Ada is only standing her ground of her own choice. They were the ones being selfish for wanting Ada to follow them even though she would not be happy doing that. For the ones who sacrificed, they wanted Ada to be like them, doing things that affect them negatively, and not be happy with her choice. Can you see now how everyone is reflecting their own thoughts and projecting them on another?

You may think that this is a very simple and yet “no big deal” kind of example. But, the way you handle a certain thing or event, no matter how big or small, it reflects the way you handle everything. Take time to go within and observe yourself and those around you. How different are you from them and them from you? Have you been afraid of judgements that you have been sacrificing yourself, and jealous of people like Ada?

If you are like Ada, then all the more you should not be afraid of those who are jealous of you, for they are the ones with issues they need to heal. You can choose to help them, or walk away. Because you cannot save everyone, and that you have to ensure your own well is filled before you can fill another.

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