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It is them not me

Today we will discuss about TV dramas, about the so-called “bad” roles in many dramas, the most annoying character in the drama, the one who either having a tragic ending or was changed for the better by the male or female lead in the drama.

As a viewer of dramas, have you realised that the “bad” guy/girl roles in the dramas were actually hurting themselves while doing harm to others? Did you also realise that these annoying characters always would think that they are the victims, and that it is others who are doing them injustice?

These “bad” roles always feel that they are the victims, they have victimhood mentality, and that they did not do anything wrong. Sometimes they would feel that what they did is because of what others did. They are just protecting themselves, and even avenging for themselves.

The audience watching the dramas would certainly know that the real annoying “bad” guys are those who thought they are the victims, because the audience are watching the drama from God’s view and get to see the big picture of the truth of things. And in fact, these “bad” characters are also very common in real life. Think about it, are there such people around you or is that you, yourself? Or would you think that “Hey, it’s them not me”?

These dramas are just reminding you that those who bring harm to others are those who think of themselves as victims. These “bad” people can only see that whatever others are doing are wrong, and they are not able to see how their own actions are causing harm to others and they, themselves. Thus, they often did things without consciously knowing what they are actually doing, and let things get worse.

When you are having thoughts like these, thinking that it is the fault of others, “it is them not me”, and feeling wronged or unjust about it, then this emotion is a reminder to you, to calm down and think things through before putting the blame on anyone, including yourself. This is a reminder to place yourself in the shoes of others, to give yourself a chance to see the truth and live a happier life. Neither you nor anyone needs to be blamed.

The purpose of seeing the truth has never been to blame or reprimand anyone, but to enable yourself to change and grow.

Why do people talk about others behind their backs?

Do you have this question in mind? Or do you have a thousand or ten thousand words to insult these people? Think before you insult and say you have and will never do the same…

So why do people do this? Talking behind other people’s back? Of course, there are tens of millions of reasons and excuses, but today, we will discuss only one of them.

First of all, when a person is aggrieved but is afraid to confront the other party that he/she is wrong in blaming him/her, this aggrieved person will find another person that he/she trusted the most or in the closest proximity to complain and share his/her grievances, and talk about what the person who wronged them did and how they wronged them. This is the kind of talking behind someone’s back that we are sharing today.

Are you thinking that this situation is different? But what makes it different? Putting it into perspective, if the person who created this grievance hears from another person that he/she is being discussed by the person whom he/she just blamed, will this person thinks that this person is talking behind his/her back and saying bad things about him/her that are wrong? And if the person doesn’t feel that he/she has done anything wrong and wonder why, if the person feels aggrieved, he/she did not tell them directly instead, and went behind his/her back to share with another? In this scenario, has the “victim” change?

I believe that everyone has had experiences on both ends of this story, so before blaming another for talking behind your back, think about whether there has been any misunderstandings. Maybe some people just don’t like confrontations and want to let things quite down, or they are looking for another to empathise with them. And of course, this decision of not going directly to the person who triggered this emotion within them and not accepting the emotion that rose from within, will only deepen the misunderstandings and give opportunities to those who may have bad intentions to create drama from this.

If you do not like confrontations, then you most likely have fear within, and are not confident enough. You may need healing and you can do this through self-love or engage our help.

Important questions to ask yourself before you speak

How many have thought that always having to think before they speak to others are tiring. And it is tiring just by having this thought itself. . . Because the end result is to say what is not true to their own thoughts and feelings, but to please another. This is also why many people now mistakenly think that by sharing criticisms and hate openly, they are being true and cool. This is the effect of a backlash from depression. . . This is also the reason why many people are interested in reading the minds of others.

In fact, many times, this annoyance and tiredness comes from trying to guess and control the reaction of others. And others are not within the scope of control. To think of trying to control or fight another person of the same level, will of course lead to annoyance and tiredness. Here, you are trying to fight against the natural Law of the Universe, which is, the Law of Freewill.

Many people are taught by their elders, while others are taught by experiences, that whenever you want to speak with another, you need to think first before you let it out of your mouth, questions to ask yourself before you speak may be like:

“If I say this, will he/she not like me?”,

“If I say this, will he/she be upset?”

“If I say this, will I be a bad person in the mouth of others’ ?”

“How will others see me if I were to say this?”

Have you discovered that the subject of these questions are others and not within, and how these questions are hiding selfish intentions? These questions revolve around others, outside of self and hide the desire to control others. The desire to control how others think and feel about ourselves. To want to control them from being hostile to ourselves.

This direction of thinking is being misguided, and it thus leads to depression and annoyance. Looking for an answer outside of self, will never bring the result you truly want. When the other person’s reaction to us is different from what was guessed, many people will fall into the edge of collapse, depression and irritance.

So what can we do to help with our communication with others? Can we not just say what we want to say? This is, of course, our ultimate goal, but it can be devastating when you don’t even know yourself well.

If you are a bit lost here, you can try to change your habits of thinking, go within, and adjust the questions you are used to, a little.

For example, before you speak, you can always ask yourself first:

“What is my intention of saying this?”

“What kind of results do I want to get by saying this?”

“What is the purpose of me saying this?”

“What needs of mine am I trying to satisfy by saying this?”

“Is this need of mine true to what I desire or is it just to satisfy the vanity of ego?”

These questions will help one discover that many of what was thought to be true feelings and thoughts, are in truth, not. And therefore, these words will not go out through the mouth, which will be equivalent to lesser talk of words that betray oneself, and releasing of energy of betrayal, and thus not attracting people or situations that involve betrayals.

By asking yourself these questions frequently, will also allow you to increase your self-awareness and understand your true self. At the same time, you will have more confidence in the words you have spoken, as they come from deep within, your true self. And you will not feel any guilt for your true feelings. Instead, you will feel peace and joy, because you understand that what you are saying is not meant to attack anyone, nor to bring yourself up above anyone, or push anyone down beneath you.

By doing so, you will also come to realise that the understanding and reaction of others to your words are purely within them, and has nothing to do with you at all.

In addition to all these, what you will find with joy is your inner peace.

Energy Update – September 2019

This will be a month of healing, and for most of us, this would mean a challenging month, especially in the area of our material concerns, relating to finances. We may feel like the world is against us and nothing is going our way. There will be some losses along the way, because out with the old, and in with the new.

Some of us will experience financial loss, and others illusionary financial losses. So what does illusionary financial loss means? For example, you were expecting some big wins in some lucky draws or lottery and you just missed out on a number to win the grand prize. This one number difference causes you to fall into a state of lack, obsessing on this “bad” luck to missed out by just one number, and feeling that you now has no money to do anything, forgetting you did not lose out on any money you already have.

Some of us may be in transit of a job, leaving an old job in search of a better opportunity, while others having to leave the current place of residence in search for a better place. And it is in this transit that brings about confusions and struggles, one might forget that this is only in transition, which means this is temporary.

This month in general, if you have to or is thinking to spend on some big ticket items, do think twice. Check in with yourself, do you really need the item? Are there any cheaper alternatives that you can consider? Weigh in between what you really need, that is what you need to survive, and what you desire, that is to satisfy your ego. Take care to not let yourself slip into the state of lack.

There will also be a change of partners for some, or status of relationships, and unexpected health issues. This challenging month may cause turmoil in our lives. If you are feeling left out in the cold, remember, this is temporary, and this happens for your healing. If you find difficulty, do reach out for help and support that are available. Be open to receive help from others, be open to receive Love that those around you are more than willing to give. And you only have to be open to see and receive.

This also means that this is the month for you to tap into your strength, to be willing to open to see and accept Love from those around you. Ask your Angels for assistance and guidance to help you through this healing. You do not have to do this alone.

Blessings to you.

Energy Update – August 2019

The energy of August is going to be sweet, very sweet and filled with fantasy. Imagine a pink princessy fantasy land filled with candies. Yeap, this kind of sweet.

Because you have gotten through the door of opportunity, the door of beginning. Everything, including yourself will start experiencing what you thought as unfamiliar and yet familiar at the same time. This unfamiliarity because you have not experienced in this physical lifetime, the familiarity as many have already guessed, an experience of your soul in another lifetime, another dimension. You have brought yourself through to another higher dimension, with peace running through every part of your body and yet, your ego is still resisting this new galactic energy upgrade within. Let yourself go freely. Go out into nature, spend more time in nature. Engage in activities that make you feel free and creative. You are going to write a new story of your life from here. The past never matters to your future, but it matters to help you grow and expand to this moment, so you can step through the door of opportunity.

This month also focuses on relationships. Not only the relationship of Lovers but also, friendships and families. You are going to experience the sweetest energy of the month in your relationships. This is unlike the atmosphere that you have during Valentine’s. You will feel loved, you will feel compassion. This is unconditional love, and not the conditional love that you are so used to. The love from a mother is the nearest to unconditional love BUT it is NOT unconditional. It is conditional. This month you are going to experience what is truly unconditional. For some it’s going to be as short as a split second, while others have the fortunate to experience this unconditional love in a longer period. No matter, once you have recognized the unconditional love, remember how it feels. This is going to help you greatly with your manifestations. And for some, this is an indication that your manifestations are near to fruition.

Do not, however, look to this energy, but let yourself immersed in it. Let yourself go with the flow.

This is also the time to start contemplating on how you can live in the moment and yet look towards your goals. The two never contradict, they go together and yet the ego always do not allow the two to come together. Just like the coin, there is always two sides and most of the time, your ego only allows you to see only one side and convinced you that only one can exist at a time. Just like yes and no, cannot come together. Or so you thought.

Enjoy the energy of August and stop letting what happened before you need to step through the door continue to influence you, as you are now through the door, you have left everything else behind. You are NEW.

Energy Update – July 2019

For the energy update of this upcoming month, what I received was an image of a door with frame decorated by beautiful fresh flowers. My Angels told me that this is the door to opportunity. The image then slowly gets brighter and brighter, with the light slowly expanding its reach upon the area it was shining on, while revealing more doors of opportunities. At this time, the door to opportunity that was right in front of me, told me that there are some doors here that will lead to leaving certain people, situations, and things behind. These people, situations and things that used to play significant roles in our lives but are no longer serving our highest purpose. And as we stepped through these doors that do not allow us to bring along those that are not in alignment with our energy, they will be left behind.

There are also other doors that will lead us to receive ideas, things, situations or people that will bring us closer to our dreams, our desires, our ideals. Some of us will be presented with one door, while others will have a few to choose from. There are also a small group that will be presented with a lot of doors. 

And no matter how we choose, it is always the right door for us, the right door to our dreams, our desires, and it is also for our highest good. This  means you do not have to put any pressure on yourself. You do not have to stress out on which door to choose. Just follow your instincts and choose the one you feel drawn to. If you are trying to find the door of opportunity, it simply means you are too nervous. Perhaps you are trying to control and manipulate how this door of opportunity looks like and where it is supposed to come from? If you feel frustrated, it is your higher self that is trying to gain your attention to take a break and stop forcing yourself forward. During this time, it is recommended to go into meditation, to declutter your mind, or connect with nature.

This month, there will also be a number of people who will be trapping themselves in a chaos. But the actual storm is already some distance away. This is a storm that has already left your life. What you can do is to accept that it has left your life and that you are now safe. Accept that you have grown through the experience, gained wisdom and knowledge through the experience and thus, see the truth in light. Some people have been caught in this illusion because of their habits. Since it is the illusion of the mind, it can of course be cleared through the mind. Do help yourself and think on the good side. Think about your ideal life and let yourself feel the feeling you want. Help yourself and stop yourself from falling into darkness, thinking that darkness is your reality.

July is actually a period of patience and rest for many. Patience and rest while you gain inner peace, so you can make a well informed decision for your highest good. Let yourself hear the voice from your higher self, to choose the door of opportunity that have been prepared for you. You don’t need to be anxious, because your urgency will only delay your decision making process. So take a break at this time, replenish your energy and love yourself. Until when inspiration comes, you have enough energy and confidence to move forward.

June 2019 Energy Update

You may be attracting hypocrisy into your life

This article only serves as a reference and does not mean all situations must be the same. You are guided here for a reason, so tune inwards to hear your truth. Dare to dive deeper and face your inner truth.

We always hear people complaining about how others are being “fake” and how they have been “betrayed” by certain hypocritical person. They do not understand why these people are being attracted into their lives and that they felt angry when some wise men tell them that it is them who attract such situations, without first having the patience to understand why.

If you know clearly what you hate, what makes you frustrated, what makes you angry, then congratulations! Because you found the direction to what you need to heal. You just need to admit and accept this vulnerability of yours, the most authentic you, and love this side of yours, you will then see the truth behind this “hate/anger/frustration”.

Negative emotions like “hate/anger/frustration”, are usually protective walls of self-esteem, but the word “hate/angry” tends to come from those who regard themselves as victims. Because if I say “I hate you”, then I am above you, not because you abandoned me, but because I despise you. I am more Noble than you so whatever you do will be deemed by me as beneath me.

For example, when you think others did not welcome you into their group activities, would you think that you are being outcast and they are trying to form cliques or reflecting on whether you have done something wrong? If someone doesn’t share a secret with you but shares secrets with others around you, do you think they are being hypocritical and are creating cliques?

You are more likely to be hurt from such behavior and felt unloved, and this give the “little devil” within the chance to misguide you to think that the others are trying to create problems, and that you”hate” and “despise” them. These negative words are in fact “cover-ups” for defense of low self-esteem.

This is also the reason why the so-called “betrayal” and “hypocritical” events are being brought into your life. Because you have not shown your true self. This way of concealing yourself is what attracts people who also conceal themselves. Do not forget the Law of Karma, you will always receive at least three times of what you give out. So what you receive and feel will be magnified.

And of course, there will be some people who will think that they are the ones with the problems themselves. But whether you feel that someone else has a problem or feel that you have a problem, there shows a direction to be healed. There is no right or wrong here, only you do not have your own responsibilities and have no confidence in yourself. This is not enough to understand yourself, not enough to love yourself.

So instead of working out on a solution, do you then think that you hate them or is angry with them, and they are the ones with the problems? Whether you think that someone else has a problem or that you have a problem, there exists the direction to be healed.

When you love yourself, you will understand how to treat yourself well, and therefore create empathy and treat others in the same way too. Loving yourself, will help you understand the way you treat others and yourself will attract people who will treat you in the same way, resulting in you to choosing to convey your true self in the way of love. If you love yourself, you will also respect yourself enough to not let those who are not aligned with your energy to affect you, and you will not try to convince them in anyway to think like you, for you respect them too.

Some people are afraid to choose Love, and do not believe in sharing their authentic self through the way of Love. They think by choosing Love is weak, and choosing Love is being hypocritical. BUT, choosing Love is not hypocrisy. Hypocrisy is an excuse for people who wants to defend their self-esteem in a negative way. These people usually have low confidence in themselves and have very low self-esteem.

Obviously, this shows the importance of self Love.

Read more examples of Law of Attraction: [What Law of Attraction taught me II]

Note: This article only wants to share the idea that negative emotions are not problems but guidance to your healing. The examples shared here are only provided as references to help inspire you to receive your own guidance. If you are facing with similar issues and would like help with your healing, you can consider seeking an assistance from a healer or go for our Spiritual Healing service.

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What Spiritual Ascension and Healing will bring you

In the early stages of awakening, most people will see the hidden problems behind every movement, behavior, and words of a person, and therefore may usually have the urge to help everyone whom they come into contact with. At the same time, they would also want to clean up all the things and people that appear in their lives.

In the early stages of awakening, most people will see the hidden problems behind every movement, behavior, and words of a person, and therefore may usually have the urge to help everyone whom they come into contact with. At the same time, they would also want to clean up all the things and people that appear in their lives.

As they continue to raise their spiritual consciousness and constantly heal themselves, this impulse to help everyone by intervening will change, because they will see and experience the deeper truth. The truth behind the existence of the problems, another deeper layer of truth about negative emotions and problems, like anger, frustrations, hatefulness, sadness, etc. They will also start to see how the problems of others are related to themselves from within, and start to work inwards, do self-healing and continue to raise their spiritual consciousness.

At this time, most will also find out the importance of knowing themselves and loving themselves, as well as the truth about how they can help others around them and see the true connections of everyone in the world.

When the spiritual consciousness continues to be raised and healed, they will begin to discover the problems that they once thought are in fact, not problems, but only learning experiences. At this time, some people may still have the urge to want to provide suggestions and ideas for those who are in a certain life’s challenge, but most people will not want to intervene in other people’s affairs like what happened during the initial phase of awakening, wanting to point out other people’s mistakes and shortcomings, thinking that they know the truth and can change the life of others. What they think and know at this time is “This soul needs to learn “this” to grow in “this” way”, and understands that if they intervene in another person’s life, they will create a Karmic relationship with this person, and may in turn cause this person to have to repeat the challenge that they wanted to go through. That is, repeating the painful situations for others all over again, and bringing those painful situations upon themselves.

When spiritual consciousness is constantly being raised, and healing is done, they will begin to realize the truth of all the truths that they thought they had already known before. At this time, they will understand why one has a certain point of view at some point in time. They now, will not point out the shortcomings or mistakes of others like before, because they understand that whatever happened are justifiable to these people at this point in time, and there are no rights or wrongs. They will also understand what it means by being the most authentic self, and what is their most true authentic self.

While continuing to raise spiritual consciousness and healing, they will realize that all “truths” that they see are only what they are allowed to receive, and that there are deeper truths that they do not yet know of, and thus, true humility is born from within. They will also understand that everyone is the same, just at different stages or places, receiving different aspects of the truth. They will also come to understand why certain ideas are born within certain people at certain time.

At this stage, they no longer want to convince anyone to see their truth, and will not give up their own truth just to agree with others. They will not think that the truth they see is the only truth just because they think they are more spiritually aware than another, and they will not put themselves down to cater to anyone either. This is also the moment when their consciousness learns about respect. To respect oneself and others.

Next, they will get to understand the truth behind the lesson of each individual’s problem. They can now understand that whatever the problem or lesson is for each person, that is the mission and purpose of the person’s, and the same for themselves. They start to feel proud of the soul, and touched by the lesson that the soul has chosen. They will also be grateful for every one that appears in their own lives. Whether these people trigger their negative emotions or are good to them, because they know that whoever appears in their lives, are those who truly love them. At this time, they also learnt about true Love.

Most people at this stage, will not be affected by the actions of others, nor will they attempt to explain or want to convince anyone. They know their roles, purpose and mission with clarity and are more than willing to serve and contribute to the world, and to do what they came to do.

Note: Spiritual ascension and healing processes are different from person to person. Although, the overall big picture looks the same, no two people will be the same in their own experiences. This article shares the most likely phenomenon that most people will experience during spiritual ascension and healing process, and serves only as a reference not a mandatory rule.

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May 2019 Energy Update

Energy Update – May 2019

As I was channeling for the energy of May 2019, I saw the vision of a basket of flowers, and that later expanded to a field of flowers. And as I wanted to go in further for more details, I saw the word “Daisies“. Daisies are a symbol of innocence, purity and positive perspectives. They also hold meaning of like-minded people coming together.

This is the season of Spring for many, and this Spring comes in terms of the energetic sense, where you get to see the beauty of flowers blooming around you. Raise your awareness further, to observe and see the beauty that is already around you, and those that you have created, and creating. This is the season where you create beauty wherever you go, and see the beauty around you wherever you go.

The blooming of flowers in this month, signifies the product of what you have planted, nurtured, and patiently waited for. This is the moment to immerse yourself in this beauty, and celebrate your achievement. This is the time to acknowledge what you have accomplished, be it a baby step that you thought you have taken, this baby step is a leap in the Universe. At the same time, keep yourself in balance and do not yet go head over heels, as the fruits are yet to come. Yes, there are more celebrations to come! More harvest for you! BUT this is still the celebration that you deserved for being patient through the month of April. This is your reward for utilising your inner strength in ways for your highest good.

Now, beauty brings peace and happiness, so let yourself immerse in this beauty, and breath in this beauty while you continue to manifests and nurture your desires. Learning still, to go with the flow, taking the necessary actions from the nudges of your intuition, while enjoying yourself in the moment. Let yourself go free, let yourself be in peace this May. Release all attachments that you may have, be it in your desires or your past. This is true freedom when you are free of attachments.

As you surrender it all, you allow yourself to return to your purest state, you allow yourself to return to the innocence that you had and that helps you to see with clarity to what is happening for you and around you. And of course, back to the joy that you had when you discover the love and miracles that are happening for you.

This month, will also be the month where you get to meet many like-minded people, and again, only if you allow it to happen. Make space for these people in your life, and be open to receive them in acceptance. For many, these people are whom you have been manifesting, so do not block yourself now that they are coming in for you. For a few of you, this signifies you coming together with your guides and angels. Yay, this means you will gain a stronger connection with them, and meet them (if you have not yet). There are also another group where you get to meet your Angels in human forms. So, now is the moment to release all attachments not in alignment with you, to make space for the miracles to happen.

Spring means spend more time in Nature, spend more time in the greeneries. If you have difficulties finding such places around you, then you create this beauty around you. This is what this month is about too, or have you forgotten what was mentioned in the beginning of the video. Creating beauty wherever you go.

Shall end here now. I hope what I have shared in this video can inspire you. Sending you blessings with love and light.

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